I’m very kind to others, maybe too kind to some. (Some people don’t make it easy) But am I kind to myself? Could I show more concern for my own well-being and will that come across as vanity or a high self esteem?
Sometimes I think my inner critic is an a**hole! I hear it tell me that I’m never gonna get that flippin’ banana bread recipe right. I should just quit and never try again. My inner critic tells me I’m not good enough, fast enough, young enough, pretty enough, smart enough (see I told it was a jerk). Any time that critic starts up it pushes me to prove it wrong. I AM good enough, fast enough, pretty enough (well at least cute enough), smart enough and middle age isn’t terrible.
Don’t we all occasionally have thoughts like that?? Nod your head with me, I remind myself that there are plenty of people willing, able and ready to be unkind to me so how do I combat that? By being kinder to myself, doing something nice for myself and removing toxic people from my life. We should all be easy on ourselves because we’re worth it. Kindness is defined as the quality of being friendly, generous and considerate. Kindness is also contagious.
Sometimes I buy myself little gifts instead of waiting for someone else to. I love fresh flowers so I head to Costco and buy myself some. I bring them home and put ’em in a pretty vase and just admire. Then my husband comes home and wants to know who sent me flowers, it’s kinda cute to see he gets a little jealous still. Hmmm, I wonder what he would say if I wrote myself a note?? That’s probably weird, isn’t it?
We say affirmations in our head or have little notes with positive sayings. We give ourselves pep talks. We have wall plagues with pretty quotes and we even have that voice of our mother in our head that says, “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything”. Right? Didn’t your mom teach you that? She was right ya know, make sure you practice that on yourself as well. Be kind to you and you’re better prepared to give kindness to others. One person at a time we can all become kinder and more compassionate.
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