Middle age, Over the Hill, On Your Way Out, Golden Years…whatever you want to call it. What ever stage you’re at, it’s not that bad, as a matter of fact, there’s a lot of cool things about getting older no one tells you about.
I gotta admit, I kinda went into middle age kicking and screaming with just a wee bit of resistance but I’m on the other side now and it’s good. I mean it’s really really good! It’s like a secret known only to those who get to experience it and another club I get to proudly become a member of. That’s right, I’m proud of becoming older. I went through a lot of shit to get here, so I don’t plan on squandering any of my time while I’m here in it.
Beauty is wasted on the youthful. I’m not sure who originally said that and I’m not sure I agree with it but I understand it. Let’s face it, for some, that’s all they really have going for them, in their youth, is their looks. They haven’t learned how to be gracious, compassionate, generous or mindful, some have but not to the level of an older person. With age comes wisdom, I do agree with this whole heartedly. Also, chances are if you haven’t been diagnosed with some type of mental illness by middle age, you probably never will be, that’s got to be a bonus for some. (Personally, I have some mild anxiety and OCD tendencies but hugging myself and rocking slowly in the corner usually helps…kidding, I’m just kidding).
So here is my personal list of cool things that happen when you get older:
Happiness: This has to be number 1, because it’s true. Happiness is a choice! A choice that you finally learn as you become older. You learn that no one and nothing can make you happy except yourself. Just you and you alone. Stop looking for it somewhere else, look within. (I kinda felt like a female Buddha typing that, it felt good)
Emotionally Sound: This is divine. You have learned how to keep emotions in check and reactions under control, at least outwardly. You know not to make rash decisions in the heat of the moment and not to make a scene in public or on social media. Your emotional maturity is peaking and a lot of things that bothered you when you were younger just don’t anymore. How great is that?!? You gotta love this one.
Fashion: With age the media doesn’t try to influence decisions regarding looks or fashion, they don’t try because they know you’re gonna wear what ever the fluck you want to! You have more confidence in yourself and your choices of personal style. You don’t try to fit in anymore and it’s a beautiful thing. You could care less about whose name is on your ass. Name brands and over priced mean nothing.
Saying No: This is so freeing! Getting older means you don’t feel the need to say yes to everything. Saying no is a necessity and a luxury. It can, at times, save your sanity. You can say no to the invitation and not feel bad. Here’s the freeing part, you don’t even try to come up with an excuses, you just say, nope not happening, then just give a sly smile and walk away while they’re still stunned. Feels good right??
Slowing Down: Maybe it’s because of your age that makes you want to slow down and enjoy every little morsel more. Everyday becomes more of a gift so you hug a little tighter and say I love you more often. You literally stop to smell the roses and take in the scenes. The wonders all around are more vivid and the only way to enjoy them is to slow it down.
Grandkids: Having grown kids is nice, your work is finally complete (mostly) and if you’re lucky enough to have grandkids you already know the purest form of complete joy that ever existed! How flipping fantastic to just be able to enjoy a child’s presence without the work/responsiblity involved with raising them. Complete bliss.
Minding your own business: Getting older means you know your opinion is not necessary on everything and most of the time it’s not really even wanted. You don’t get yourself involved in gossip, rumors or drama. In fact, when you see it coming, you turn and run like a zombie is chasing you. You just don’t have the time or energy it takes for that nonsense.
Liking your own company: With age you know how to entertain yourself and many times you prefer it over the craziness in the world (see above). You like yourself again, like you did when you were a kid. You believe in yourself, someone else’s opinion no longer matters and alone time is peaceful. You don’t stress over what anyone else is doing because you are so engrossed in your own hobbies.
The coolest thing about getting older is being able to enjoy it. Worry starts to fade away because you know it doesn’t help. Material things become less important. You’re more focused on engaging conversations over idol small talk. You understand what’s most important in life. Life is indeed a little sweeter even if your body is a little more creaky.